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October 5, 2009
The female orgasm: whether you have them, you want to have them, you want to give them, or all of the above’ it tends to engender a great deal of application from a great many people. From screaming O-faced portraits and ads to poets waxing eloquent on the exact moment of ethereal delight, its official: the female orgasm is a very good thing indeed.
The word orgasm comes from the Greek word orgasmos, signifying a certain swelling, which not only gives us an idea of what’s happening to the body, but a clue as to how people feel about them. But does anyone truly understand the ways and means of the orgasm? It might seem simple on the surface, but when you get right down to it, it could be one of the most complex processes we run into.
Assigning Concrete Definitions to the Subjective and the Amorphous
So what is the actual definition of an orgasm?
From a clinical point of view, it can be defined as the series of physical changes (such as lubrication, ballooning of the upper vaginal area, flushed skin) culminating in cycles of contraction occurring within the uterus, vagina, and pelvic muscles, and followed by a flood of signals from the brain triggering euphoria and relaxation.
Psychologists tend to view it more subjectively, basing it on satisfaction, intimacy, release, and emotional factors. There are also several distinct kind of orgasms: vaginal, clitoral, anal, and even breast / nipple stimulation are the most noted. However, there are other sorts which have been reported. This makes things even more complicated in studies, as most only look at the difference between vaginal and clitoral stimulation, and not any of the other myriad ways that a woman can achieve orgasm.
The Pair-Bond Beau Monde
The evolutionary function of the female orgasm is one thing that seems to be on the minds of scientists. After all, a pleasurable orgasm for the male makes perfect sense – if it feels good, then the male is encouraged to have more sex, spreading his seed wherever he can manage it. On the other hand, there are plenty of theories out there as to why women developed the ability to orgasm.
One theory, dating all the way back to 1967 (also known as the Dark Ages), suggests that the female orgasm aids in pair-bonding (Desmond Morris, The Naked Ape), although the presumption with the most evidence is that orgasm increases fertility. There are several ways through which it manages this. One way is that the vagina reduces in size by 30%, which creates more of a vacuum, keeping semen in the vaginal canal and literally sucking it up toward the cervix.
In fact, back in 1994, a Learning Channel documentary actually put a fiber-optic cable-camera inside of a woman’s vagina to see what happens during intercourse. It turns out that during orgasm, the female partners cervix continually dipped into the semen, helping to facilitate fertilization. It has also been found that women have an easier time while they are ovulating, which gives a bit more credence to the concept of orgasms as reproductive assistants.
Another fact which rarely bears dispute is duration a female orgasm lasts much longer than the male counterpart. The average orgasm for a woman clocks in between 7 and 20 seconds, compared to a handful of seconds for men (which makes up for the fact that women generally report a longer time – 12 minutes – to reach orgasm than men). One study by Tim Spector of St. Thomas Hospital indicates there is a possibility that difficulty with attaining orgasm might be linked to genes – namely to get rid of men who are not good matches. Which in and of itself is a pretty fine litmus test, no? Since it takes much longer on average to make a woman orgasm, a man who would spend the time and effort to make it happen could be considered a far more desirable partner than one who just rushes for his pleasure alone. Unfortunately, they did not have much success in pinning down whether the genes affected this selection on a physical level or a psychological one.
And somewhere, Desmond Morris is grinning. (Though the posters on your friendly neighborhood Craigslist may not be.)
Hysteria When You’re Near
- Def Leppard, Hysteria
Orgasm has been linked to women’s health from as early as the late 1800s, when it was commonplace for hysteria (which was the clinical term for a woman being womanly) to be treated with vibrators wielded by grimfaced, sweaty-palmed doctors in their office. Thank goodness we can get our vibe on at home these days! From a holistic health standpoint, writer Kathleen Doheny at Web MD gives us a list of ten benefits that having a healthy and happy sex life (either solo or partnered) can have for women. Although there are some obvious ones like calorie-burning, increased intimacy, and increased self-esteem, there are a few surprises. For instance, did you know that regular sex and orgasms can help to boost your immune system, mitigate pain, help lessen depression, and even aid in getting good, restful sleep? Unfortunately, having regular orgasms won’t help you win the lottery or cure disease – but I’m sure someone out there is working on that. Or at least, we hope they are!
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August 12, 2009
An international best-selling book containing intimate personal diaries from 97 women reveals new reasons why women ???go off sex??™ once they??™re in long-term relationships.
In The Sex Diaries: Why Women Go Off Sex And Other Bedroom Battles, which has just been released in the UK, sex therapist Bettina Arndt reveals that far from having passionate sex every night, many couples are trapped in a cycle of boredom, tiredness and low libido. And often this comes from a communication problem at the heart of a relationship.
‘From the time I started working as a sex therapist back in the early 1970s, people have been talking to me about their sex lives,’ Arndt said. ‘What I hear about most is the business of negotiating the sex supply. How do couples deal with the strain of the man wishing and hoping while all she longs for is the bliss of uninterrupted sleep?’
Commenting on the book in The Daily Mail, sexpert Flic Everett says: ‘The Sex Diaries reveals a much more tender, intimate truth about men in relationships. Men who aren’t, in fact, surfing internet porn every night, or resentfully putting up with the middle-aged wife while they fantasise about the hot 21-year-old next door.’
‘It comes as a poignant surprise, in fact, to discover that the majority are still deeply in love with their wives; they just want the chance to be physically closer to her, and to feel loved and accepted in return, despite their balding heads or round tummies.’
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July 12, 2009
Opinion Porn is now illegal in the Ukraine, unless used for medicinal purposes. Ukrainian President Viktor Yushchenko last week signed off on new legislation joining the Ukraine to an ever-lengthening list of countries that have decided to move the censorship goalposts over the last few years, from publication of porn on to simple possession of it.
Ironically, the world may have a bizarre coalition of puritan New Labour and evangeligising Americans to thank for this giant leap forward for moral mankind.
On June 11, the Verkhovna Rada (the Ukrainian parliament) made possession of pornography is not extreme porn, but ANY porn is a criminal offence. It will be punishable by a fine of 850 hryvnia – which our currency converter helpfully reveals is approximately 69 British pounds – or up to three years in prison. As in the UK, this is a significant shift in the law, which previously only concerned itself with those who produced or distributed pornography.
The problem with this legislation is that the only available definition of porn comes from 2003 legislation, which states, according to the English language version of the Kyev Times:
“Pornography is vulgar, candid, cynical, obscene depiction of sexual acts, pursuing no other goal, the explicit demonstration of genitals, unethical elements of the sexual act, sexual perversions, realistic sketches that do not meet moral criteria and offend honour and dignity of the human by inciting low instincts.” Read More »
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June 7, 2009
The former Erotic Review magazine editor answers your sex questions…
QUESTION: I’m a bit of a nature girl and have always liked the idea of making love outdoors, in a forest or field, but my boyfriend is quite inhibited and always behaved like I’ve suggested we have sex in the shop window of John Lewis when I suggest the idea. How can I bring him round?
ROWAN SAYS: How timely that this arrived in my inbox during one of the loveliest springs of recent years.
There’s a traditional English ditty that goes: ‘Hurrah hurrah the first of May/ outdoor rutting starts today.’ And it’s true that for many people the verdant glory of the British countryside acts as a powerful aphrodisiac. It’s not just the rising sap, it’s the song of courting birds and those tempting beds of moss.
Al fresco sex has a long and proud tradition. The historic overcrowding of rural labourers’ cottages meant that many a baby was conceived outdoors, and just think of DH Lawrence’s Lady Chatterley’s Lover, where nature provides a metaphor for the lovers’ sexual release.
But, of course, for a different cast of character the notion of al fresco sex is mortifying.
The thought of bright sunlight exposing every flaw of your gleaming white body is enough to make any shy person wither. Then there’s the fear that a twitcher’s long lens might target your rump.
For some people, the very thought of bracken or long grass and the insects they harbour is anathema. In celeb land, the outdoor act of love also arouses polarised opinions.
Earlier this year Amanda Holden told a gawping world that she and her husband, Chris Hughes, had had sex in a forest near Maidenhead while wearing pink cowboy boots’.
Jennifer Ellison, meanwhile, says: I’m too scared to have sex outdoors – I’d be paranoid about CCTV cameras catching me and ending up on Crimewatch.’
For some exhibitionist types, the risk of getting caught is precisely what gives al fresco sex its frisson. I know one couple who made love in a London park; the woman sitting astride her spouse as he lounged against a tree and her long peasant skirt concealed the nature of their intimacy. Read More »
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May 27, 2009
Girls these days may know the ABCs of STDs, every birth control brand under the sun and how to expertly roll a condom onto a cucumber, but they “don’t know how to say ‘no’” to sex. That’s according to coverage of a new survey of Australian girls’ feelings about their first time, which also warns that the result of failing to say no is regret. Ah, but beware the headline that trumpets, “Study says [insert sexy or scary something].”
The Australian Broadcasting Corp. pairs its coverage with a photograph of a girl holding her head in her hands, experiencing what appears to be soul-searing shame. Better still, the Age goes with a stock photo of a dude holding out his cellphone camera to take an awkward aerial snapshot of himself making out with an unsuspecting gal-pal. The caption reads: “This is a situation where girls may need to resist having sex.” Thanks for the clarification. Read More »
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April 12, 2009
Home Secretary Jacqui Smith’s husband Richard Timney caused a storm by putting X-rated sex films on her expenses. jane hardy finds out how these women feel about pornography…Trudy Smyth (30) is anchor of Citybeat’s flagship news programme, Belfast Tonight (Mon-Fri 6pm to 7pm). Single, Trudy lives in Belfast. She says:
“I have to say I don’t really think porn is necessarily wrong, although it can be used in the wrong way. If porn movies or magazines are used by two consenting adults in the privacy of their own home, without anybody else involved, that’s all right in the 21st century.
“If we stuck with the old attitudes, that it’s totally wrong and it doesn’t happen, that won’t get us anywhere. Let’s look at adult material in the right way and encourage a more tolerant attitude.
“I wasn’t particularly shocked by the fact that Richard Timney (Jacqui Smith’s husband) put these movies on her expenses; it was the fact that she didn’t know he had done it. Because adults do watch these films.
“I don’t think their marriage is at risk as a result, nor is her career. People who look at porn or know people who do, are still able to do their job.”
Mary Johnston (60) writer, Sunday Life consumer champion and married mother of four, lives in Belfast. She says:
“I’m not interested in Jacqui Smith’s husband’ s viewing habits and I neither condone nor condemn them.
“I am, however, outraged by his wife claiming for them alongside everything else.
“I realise there are experts and psychologists who will tell us that porn is actually good in that some people can get their rocks off through viewing it rather than going out and |attacking people. I’m not sure I buy into this. Watching porn would surely be more likely to encourage evil people to act out their fantasies after intensive viewing.
“I would have imagined that it was more of a young guy’s hobby rather than a man his age. It makes me regard him as a sad old so-and-so.
“I am actually not that open-minded when it comes to porn. I absolutely abhor it and couldn’t possibly watch it but that’s just me. I’d feel utterly sickened and degraded but everybody is different and I hate to be judgemental as a rule.
“I could see this very public revelation affecting Ms Smith’s marriage as well as her career, but I have no idea about the state of her marriage anyway. I don’t think her career will be adversely affected by the porn thing so much as by the claiming. Read More »
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March 1, 2009
Georgia State is the most fantastic university in America because it gives you several hours of academic credits for attending hands-on, how-to classes about ORAL SEX and GAYNESS, which is to say, relatively dry theoretical courses on “sexuality and society” and queer theory. (Many college students the world over have been baffled at the ability of academics to sap even the most salacious topics of even a hint of excitement; your editor recalls a lecture on Foucault turning into a massive snoozy buzzkill by the professor, a tiny and hilarious little old Mr. McGoo type, spending more time talking about the Panopticon than with what he called “SM”) The point is, every student who goes to Georgia State immediately turns gay and gets a four-year supply of dental dams and/or condoms upon enrollment. Read More »
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